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When we found out Zeke was allergic to milk and soy, I spent 48 excruciating hours cutting out nursing cold turkey.
My milk supply had dropped in the first week back at work (because STRESSSSSS), so when we found out about his allergy in that same week (uh, STRESSSSSS), it made sense in that moment that I just cut the cord and give up breastfeeding. Truth: Breastfeeding as a working mom is incredibly hard because of the logistics of it all. This isn't a sob fest-- its easy enough because enough of us obviously do (or did) it-- but it's a real dance in managing priorities.
You have to set aside time at work to pump, which means not just the actual act of pumping, but the setting up the pump, storing the milk, cleaning the pumping supplies, rearranging your outfit, drinking a million gallons of water to keep up, not forgetting your pump, making sure your milk is chilled if you have to take it with you. It's a freaking chore.
SO, you can understand that the combination of a huge diet change (to accommodate Zeke's allergy) + managing pumping + stress-induced lower production can be daunting. Well, I wouldn't recommend my rash decision to anyone. Cutting nursing/pumping cold turkey is like slapping yourself in the face with a serious hormonal depletion.
You see, amid the stress and logistics of pumping and breastfeeding hides a wonderful emission of this awesome happiness hormone called oxytocin. It's part of the reason breastfeeding can be so rewarding and enjoyable.
When I quit cold turkey for 48 hours I wasn't just in pain because I didn't know how to properly wean (internet fail), but I was crying that entire time because I was so sad. Like, SO SAD.
It didn't take long for me to pony back up to my little man and figure out a new diet (more on that in a future blog post).
...And then two months later I started weaning because I was tired of taking my shirt off. So, on to the wisdom I learned in the crazy weaning rollercoaster...
Here's the basic equation: Every three days, stop one session of nursing or pumping and only release enough milk to relieve pressure. Repeat until you're done.
My best advice on how it's done:
1. Don't wean unless it's medically necessary or you are ready.
If you're like me, there will be a moment hanging in time that just screams, "I'm done."
For me, it was having my hair pulled at a Wendy's while Zeke was flailing around (like a normal baby, it's not his fault) underneath my cover while my chili was getting cold. I just wanted to eat and keep my clothes on. Like, can a girl have a nice normal lunch?
2. Take it slow. Like, as slow as you can.
A lot of what I heard and read hurried up the process a lot more than I would ever recommend so I made myself my own chart and stuck to it. Every three days, I cut out a feeding. Download the PDF below that details a sample timeline with suggested comfort measures to employ at certain days and copy it to fit your needs.
3. Use ice and cabbage leaves for engorgment and clogs.
Cabbage leaves changed the game for me. I can't make this up.
Use those bad boys as layers on your ladies underneath your bra and you'll feel better in no time. Bonus -- coleslaw for lunch. KIDDING.
Ice packs help too. My favorite kind is listed below.
4. Hand express in the shower.
Every time you shower, do a massage to check on potential clogged ducts and take the time to empty your breasts.
There's no better excuse to have that second glass of wine or cup of coffee. You have to hydrate when you're nursing, so it helps to dehydrate when you're trying to get your production down.
6. Laugh about it. Celebrate it. Congratulate yourself. Kiss your baby.
I would say this is the most important part of the whole process.
Weaning isn't easy no matter how you do it. If it's an emergency weaning process, I hear it's horribly painful and shocking. And even if it's planned, chances are it'll be uncomfortable.
So, get up and over your bad self and celebrate the freedom to wear whatever you want. Pat yourself on the back for breastfeeding as long as you did. Kiss that gorgeous baby of yours and rest knowing he/she is well nourished with whatever replacement their eating because, as I love to say, #fedisbest.
Rapid Reduction in Supply - Linda J. Smith
Best guidelines I found. This is where I learned about the cabbage leaves and ice pack.
The water/light ice or warm water option (versus a bag of peas or ice cubes) is super soothing. The article I linked above mentions use of cold and hot therapy. Just pick up any compress like this and you'll be good.
Champion Compression Sports Bra - From Target
When I first started weaning, I was super engorged and avoided hugs or any physical contact like the plague. This bad boy helped loosen the blow and keep my ladies in tight so I could focus and not have to feel as much discomfort.
What I learned after my firstborn was born
My little guy was born naturally the first week of March with the guidance and support of my husband, an incredible doula, a wonderful hospital staff, our perfectly (I'm not being facetious) stern doctor, after more than four weeks of early labor.
That's right. Over four weeks before our little man decided to make his debut, he was prepping the sails, revving the engine, and rolling out the red carpet.
Now in case you don't know what that is and think I'm a whiny-baby who was misreading her body's signs because "it's her first time," you can sit down and listen. Yes, this was my first experience with birth. No, these weren't Braxton Hicks. Yes, I was dilating and contracting for four plus weeks. Yes, this is normal. AND, no, you're wrong-- I'm actually really glad it played out like this.
Those four weeks were a gift from God to me. Literally.
I was forced to slow down and skip the gym and any extra exertion and literally prescribed by my doctor to relax and soak it all in. Although the 'sit down and watch TV,' and 'no walks for you,' drove me crazy, it caused me to look at a big truth in the face.
Birth will happen to you no matter how much you walked, crunched, lifted, or stretched.
You see, I had it in my head that I would do my best to have a natural labor, but that I should also be in great shape to make that a possibility.
That's just not the case.
If given the opportunity-- and barring any medical concerns-- your body, no matter its 'in shapeness' will do its job as its medically able.*
If there is anything I've learned more about myself in the last year, it is that I have an insatiable appetite for the word 'yes.' Sometimes, this appetite can get in the way of self-care, loving my spouse, or recognizing my weaknesses. Other times, it has served me well as a vehicle to learn new things, meet new people, and get out of my comfort zone.
A year ago this month, I transitioned from my relatively short stint as a full-time consultant into a full-time gig at the Arizona Educational Foundation. This decision was based on many longterm goals, well thought out plans, and a desire to make a difference. But don't let that responsible answer fool you-- I also chose to say yes.
I believe-- whole heartedly-- that saying yes is the root to the tree of great fruit. I believe that saying yes and then figuring out how to do what you said yes to is a gift to yourself. It's another way of telling yourself, "(Insert name), you've freaking got this. Say yes!"
DHS ISSUES SHOW HOW IMPORTANT CASA's ROLE IS - BY KARRI MIRANDE KARIN HUGHES, LISA ROMAN
CASA stands for Court Appointed Special Advocates. The people in your/our community who volunteer in this capacity are sometimes the only voice that a child hears as an advocate for him or her. This article in the Herald & News (Oregonian Paper) gives a great (quick read!) look at the benefits of this system in our courts.
There's seriously nothing better than finding product that is a true solution to an issue, problem, or irritant. Thank God I'm a mom in the 2000's because doing it with these products seriously takes the edge off.
Below is a quick photo list (with anecdotal evidence!) of my favorite products for mom and baby. Hope these are helpful for you and yours!
From top left, clockwise: