How getting out of the house makes me a better mom
Spoiler Alert: getting out of the house has everything to do with whether our days go well or I'm clamoring at the door when Nick gets home. We all behave better in public. There's really no better way to say it.
My boys and I need to spend time out of our house in public spaces because I need to get out and be out in the world. I hope you're tracking with me. What I really should've titled this is: "I behave better in public so as a result, so do my kids."
Getting out of the house has very little to do with my kids' desires or tendencies and nearly everything to do with the quality of my parenting.
At the ripe age of as-long-as-I-could-remember, my dad asked big questions and talked to me about big things. My mom recounts me including war torn countries and national tragedies in my nightly prayers because current events were included in our dinner conversations before I even entered school.
Staying in-the-know has been a backdrop of my life since I was little without me even knowing it. I went to journalism school for my undergrad at Arizona State University with very little understanding of the industry I was getting into, but with a strong passion for learning and communicating. It was a no-brainer, really.
So, how does this at all relate to my new normal of work/kids/writing/family/all the things? Well, I didn't just stop being me when I got married, or had kids, or started working on my own clock. I still crave to keep up with current events.
Here's a quick and dirty list of the ways I keep up with our nation and the world's happenings.
Top Headlines from Apple - Morning Coffee
I know the mighty algorithm game is guiding what headlines pop up in my top Apple News but for the sake of at least being aware of the basics before 9a, I take a peek at the morning's top news in my phone. I took a second when I got my phone a few months ago to pick my top sources. I haven't adjusted it yet, but for now it's working just fine. Just swipe right and you're golden, friends.
A year ago I took a huge leap of faith and transitioned to part-time consulting from home so I could be with my boys. I've learned a lot in the process. The transition has taught me a lot of logistical things (i.e. never leave the house without snacks) and a lot of mental things (self-care is a requirement).
When I imagined my life as a 17-year-old, I never pictured myself staying at home with multiple children at any point of my adulthood. I really didn't even foresee myself having children. It's not that I was opposed to the idea, but I had other plans. Plans to perform in the Riverdance troupe for a year before college and then get some liberal arts degree. My plans included a job in government, advocacy, or social services while living in a city with exceptional public service so I wouldn't need to own a car. Of course, my plans also included falling madly in love with a man who loved and cared for me in equal amounts.