Delegation and Communication Rule the Day
Nick and I used to fight every night around 7p after the littlest of kids were sleeping because I'd be getting ready for the next day while Nick was ready to relax.
I felt overwhelmed by the duties of the house and I hated when Nick asked how he could help. I remember thinking and probably in many instances muttering under my breath, "Oh, you know. You can help me with EVERYTHING I DO EVERY NIGHT."
It was stupid. The fighting was petty. The exhaustion is/was/(will always be) real. We really just needed to figure out how to better communicate.
I figured out that if I could label each individual task that needed to be done every night or before hosting friends or before a parent visit, the playing field could be leveled. Nick wouldn't have to ask how he could help and I could give him the opportunity without having to have a conversation about all of our nightly to-dos.
With magnetic popsicle sticks, I can put each to-do on the fridge each afternoon and by the time bedtime rolls around, both Nick and I can tackle the tasks 'listed.'
Here's what it looks like in real life.
The Final Product