If there has been any piece of advice I've received since finding out I was pregnant and giving birth to our firstborn son, it has been what you're reading in that title.
My brother and sister-in-law announced their pregnancy in early 2015. We were all so thrilled for this new life coming into the family and I was so thrilled to be able to watch my sister-in-law take on the role of mother. She's the type of woman that seems to always know the right solution or have the right answer for a problem. You know women like her...
If she doesn't have the answer, it's almost like it doesn't phase her.
So, when our niece was born, I made a point to take in every single trick that my sister-in-law exhibited. I knew it'd be a privilege to be able to watch a woman I admire take on the title of mom.
She nursed her little one standing up like it was no big deal and I noticed. She was calm and unfazed when her little girl got cranky and I noticed. She was generous in letting family hold her new daughter and I noticed.
I went into early labor nearly four weeks before our son was born. At that point, I started making my rounds and asking all of the newer mothers I knew for their golden advice. When I talked to my sister-in-law, it was like a 'no duh' moment. Of course her advice would be as smooth as her demeanor. She told me, "You'll figure it out."
She couldn't be more right.
When your kid isn't like every other kid and actually hates the carseat... You just figure it out.
When you're committed to getting out of the house and you forget a nursing cover... You just figure it out.
When people balk at your having a working maternity leave because you love your job... You just figure it out.
When you find yourself telling strangers at the grocery store to back the heck off... You just figure it out.
When you're crying at a work event because what the heck are you doing with a three week old out of the house... You just figure it out.
When you hear phantom crying from the other room when you put them down for a nap... You just figure it out.
When your husband and dog need more attention and you're running on little sleep... You just figure it out.
And when you're new at being a mom and learning everything for the first time... You just figure it out.
You got this mama. You'll figure it out.